The Next Day

rutkovitz-weddingLauren & Steve Rutkovitz

First Date:  March 1985, the Rusty Scupper

Wedding Date: Sept. 20, 1986

Ceremony: Beth Israel Congregation

Reception: The Forum

Residence: Owings Mills

Favorite Activity: Going to the beach

Lauren Pollack and Steve Rutkovitz became friends while attending Randallstown High school in the late 1970s.

Steve graduated and studied business at Frostburg State College. Lauren, two years his junior, went on to the Von Lee International School of Cosmetics.

Following a bridal shower for a friend in March 1985, both were part of a group that went dancing in Towson.

“In the wedding spirit,” they danced and had a wonderful night. The next day, Lauren told Florence Pollack she was “in love with this guy.”

“One day, we were really good friends,” said Lauren, 55, owner of A Style Studio in Pikesville. “The next day, we were in love.”

The Rusty Scupper was the site of their first date the next weekend. After, they darted to Water Street to join their friends, who noticed how comfortable they were with each other.

“Our foundation was friendship,” said Steve, 56, owner of Choice Cybersecurity. “That was really important.”

rutkovitz-currentThe following week, Steve invited Lauren to join him on an Atlantic City bus trip. He won $600 and gave her half.

Lauren had another revelation for her mom. “This guy’s lucky,” she said. “I’m going to marry him.”

They had fallen in love quickly, and Steve joined the Pollacks for a Passover seder a month later.

On Erev Rosh Hashanah, they prepared to join Florence and Howard Pollack and the rest of the family for dinner. Charlotte and Teddy Rutkovitz were invited as well. But first, fresh off a trip from Florida, Steve had a present for Lauren.

When he handed her a bag of oranges, Lauren noticed he was sweaty and nervous. She quickly learned why: He asked her to marry him, revealing a beautiful diamond ring stashed in his pocket.

They married a year later on Sept. 20, 1986. Rabbi Seymour Essrog officiated the ceremony at Beth Israel Congregation. The 300 friends and family members joined the celebration at the Forum.

“It was the most fun I ever had,” said Lauren. “We never sat down the entire wedding. Someone older and wiser gave us advice to enjoy each other. We danced the entire night. It was magical.”

After a honeymoon in St. Martin, they moved into their townhome in Courtland Woods. Over the next 11 years, they  expanded their family with Alex (1988), Matt (1991) and Peri (1997).

As they celebrate their 30th anniversary, they are enjoying their newfound time together as empty nesters, sans sports, recitals and birthday parties. Their children live out of state: Alex works remotely for Steve in New Jersey; Matt owns a software company in Florida; and Peri is a singer/songwriter in school in New York. Each comes home periodically to see them.

“It doesn’t seem like 30 years,” said Steve. “It just flew by. Looking at Lauren, it seems like we just got married. I still feel the same way.”

They look forward to spending time at their Fenwick Island beach house and traveling.

“I wouldn’t change anything in our life,” said Lauren. “We’ve had a great life.”

Linda L. Esterson is an Owings  Mills-based freelance writer. For  “Beshert,” call 410-902-2305 or  email

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