From One Groom to Another
Veteran helps the rookies
While planning a wedding may be the most exciting time for the bride, those months of invitation meetings, tastings with the caterer and photography sessions may not be as much fun for the groom.
But how should the groom know when to be involved and when to let his bride take the wedding wheel? I spoke with Pikesville’s Isaac Schleifer, vice president of Raffle Ready, who married his longtime girlfriend of six years, Lauren Schuster, last year. Schleifer, a groom who has “been there, done that” offered his advice for grooms-to-be.
JT: Every bride dreams of a romantic proposal; how did you propose to Lauren?
Schleifer: I proposed on March 19, 2011 and told her we were going to a Purim party in Annapolis. I bought us Prince
Aladdin and Princess Jasmine costumes and had a horse and carriage casually go by us as if they normally gave rides to guests. I had the carriage take us to a dead-end street, where I had set up lights and flowers and had “A Whole New World” playing in the background.
What was the first thing you two did after you became engaged?
I made my Scotch list for the engagement party, and she started to look for a dress for the engagement party.
What was your favorite part about the wedding-planning process? Least favorite?
My favorite part was shopping for the ring at Samuelson’s Diamonds; my least favorite part was making the guest list.
With what part of the wedding planning did you most want to be involved?
I wanted to make sure that Lauren got exactly what she wanted without anyone or any vendor trying to convince her of anything else.
What is your advice for newly engaged guys?
Speak only when spoken to.
What was your favorite part about your wedding?
My beautiful bride.
What would you say to a newly engaged bride who wants to have her groom involved with everything? Good idea? Bad idea?
Bad idea. Most brides don’t actually want anyone else’s opinion.
What is your favorite part of being married?
Coming home to a home-cooked meal every night.
Emily Jacobs writes for JT’s sister publication, Washington Jewish Week.